Mombian by Dana Rudolph

Mombian offers a mix of parenting insights, book reviews, media analysis and political and legal commentary for and about LGBTQ parents and our children. It takes an LGBTQ-focused look at parenting topics and explores other aspects of the LGBTQ community with a parent's eye. Dana Rudolph is the the founder and publisher of Mombian, a GLAAD Media Award-winning blog and resource directory for LGBTQ parents. She's the lesbian mom of a middle-schooler and lives with her spouse of over two decades. For more information, visit www.mombian.com.


I made a cake Nov. 8 to celebrate what I thought would be Hillary Clinton’s election. For decoration, I melted sugar into sheets and broke it into shards to represent the glass ceiling that I hoped she would shatter. On Nov. 9, however, I found myself looking at the remains of the cake and wondering if it better represented an earlier event on that date: Kristallnacht, when Nazi-led mobs vandalized hundreds of synagogues, Jewish homes, schools, businesses, hospitals and cemeteries, leaving the streets littered in broken glass.

Back-to-school time can be stressful for any parent. There are supplies to buy, schedules to arrange and forms to fill out. For many LGBTQ parents, it can bring up worries about our children’s inclusion and safety — but it can also be an opportunity for building bridges.

I had an encounter with the police a few weeks ago. I am an avid cyclist, and had a flat while on a ride, about 15 miles from home. I was struggling to change my tire when a local officer drove by, stopped to see if I needed help and offered to drive me to my house. I took her up on it, not wanting to spend any more time baking in the hot sun. My bike went into the back seat, I sat in the front and we chatted about the weather during the drive.

I wrote this column just before the shooting in Orlando. To rewrite it before my deadline would be to find words for something I do not yet have words for. I hope that my reflections on Pride nevertheless help give us strength as a community during one of our most difficult times.

May is National Museum Month, and LGBTQ families have a growing source of support in museums — including ones aimed at children — that have been reaching out to welcome all kinds of families. Margaret Middleton, a Boston-based designer, speaker and consultant, has been a leader in this effort.

A new study on children with two moms is the first to use an apples-to-apples comparison and a nationally representative sample to conclude that same-sex parents are as good as different-sex ones. That’s all well and good, but with national marriage equality and no more states banning same-sex couples from adopting, is this type of research still important? And is it conclusive enough that we no longer need research on same-sex parents and our children?

A friend of Jeffrey Roach and Ken Manford once told them that, as the first gay dads many people had ever seen, “you’re ambassadors whether you like it or not.” Roach’s new memoir, “PopDaddy: Boy Meets Boy Meets Baby,” might thus be considered a sort of ambassadorial communiqué, but with a hefty addition of humor and heart.

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