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The Nov. 6 election saw several firsts for LGBTQ parents and our children, along with many other wins that may not have made national headlines. Here’s a broad look at the winners from the more than three dozen queer parents — and one of our kids — who ran.

Regardless of the final outcome of the mid-term elections, the administration has made it clear that they wish to erase transgender people from all federal protections, and have even presumably made overtures to the United Nations to attempt to remove gender from its human-rights documents.

One may have noticed recently an abundance of ads from TV to billboards for Medicare Advantage plans. This signals that Medicare Open Enrollment is upon us. From Oct. 15 through Dec. 7, all Medicare beneficiaries have the opportunity to decide which type of healthcare coverage they want for 2019. For many, this can be a daunting task given that there are more than 25 (yes, 25!) Medicare Advantage (MA) plans and prescription-drug plans to choose from in Philadelphia alone. But having some information and knowing where to get help can make this process a little easier to handle.

I remember the first time I thought something was very different about me. I was 9 years old, practicing my violin for an upcoming competition and the pressure to perform perfectly loomed. I spent hours alone alternating between crying (at how beautiful the music was) and screaming out loud at myself how horrible I sounded whilst hitting my bow against the music stand (luckily I didn’t break my bow). Somehow, I was aware this wasn’t quite how “regular” people dealt with stress, and though I knew it was odd that I often went from zero to a hundred in a matter of seconds, I didn’t know how not to. Growing up, I was continually told I was “highly sensitive” and needed to “develop a tougher skin.” My erratic behavior was seen as an eccentric artistic temperament — and as a child, much was forgiven. In my teens, it was teenaged angst, and occasionally, when I went too far, I was grounded or got detention. I learned how to cope, but the raging storm inside my brain never quite subsided.

The past few weeks have been a whirlwind of dirty diapers, spit-up and endless screaming (mostly from the baby, sometimes, maybe, us too, a little). Perhaps our vomit-soaked shirts and glassy eyes have labeled us as in need of advice, but Ashlee and I have been bombarded with tips from just about every side, some of which we’ve heeded and others we’ve politely gritted our teeth and smiled through. Perhaps the best piece of advice we’ve gotten came recently from one of my coworkers, who lamented just how frustrating parental advice can be: “Just do what works best for you three. Everyone else can go f*** off.” For a bewildered first-time parent, that was just the shot in the arm I needed.

In April 2015, a year before the U.S. Departments of Justice and Education under then-President Barack Obama issued guidance to public schools clarifying that Title IX protected transgender students, a school district in Virginia faced a dilemma: A fourth-grade student transitioned.

Q:  I understand that the mutual funds in my 401(k) plan charge me fees.  But it’s not clear to me how much or what those fees are for. Can you please help me better understand this?

A: As part of your retirement plan, you should receive regular disclosures about the fees you are charged, including those charged by the fund companies in which you invest.  Here’s a bit more information specifically about fund fees that may be helpful:

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