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No more ‘councilmen?’ Council votes for gender-neutral titles  

No more ‘councilmen?’ Council votes for gender-neutral titles  

Josh Middleton    February 14, 2019

In a show of unanimous support, members of City Council passed legislation Thursday that would change language in the Philadelphia Home Rule Charter to be more gender neutral.   Voters will ultimately decide the issue as a ballot...

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Elections and whom to support

Mark Segal    February 14, 2019

Once upon a time, the LGBT community had no LGBT choices in politics, only LGBT-friendly candidates, who weren’t LGBT themselves, to endorse. And, once upon a time, there were no LGBT...

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West Philly’s Mariposa Food Co-op sets the table for inclusiveness

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West Philly’s Mariposa Food Co-op sets the table for inclusiveness

Suzannah Cavanaugh    February 14, 2019

 Founded on antidiscrimination ideals, cooperatives have a storied history as LGBTQ havens. “It’s pretty ingrained in the culture. [Co-ops] have been known as safe spaces for queer folks since probably the...

Second council ally not seeking reelection

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Second council ally not seeking reelection

Lenny Cohen    February 14, 2019

 Philadelphia Councilman-at-Large Bill Greenlee announced that he will not seek reelection, paving the way for another new City Council member. “After giving it much thought, I have decided this will be...

Are dating apps helpful or hurtful?

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Are dating apps helpful or hurtful?

Gary L. Day    February 14, 2019

 As social media has proliferated in recent years, more and more gay men are turning to dating apps like Grindr and Scruff for personal connections, be they casual sexual encounters...

Local LGBTQ health organizations get a financial boost

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Local LGBTQ health organizations get a financial boost

Lenny Cohen    February 14, 2019

CHECK, PLEASE!: LBGT-specific HIV agencies across the area were recently awarded thousands of dollars from two different contributors. Coca-Cola (left) presented Action Wellness PHL Executive Director Kevin Burns with a...

Bleak forecast for LGBTQ elder housing

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Bleak forecast for LGBTQ elder housing

A.D. Amorosi    February 14, 2019

A portrait of the future for LGBTQ elder adults indicates that by 2030 there will be seven million LGBTQ senior citizens living in the United States, according to the results...

Future uncertain for city’s safe-injection site 

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Future uncertain for city’s safe-injection site 

Josh Middleton    February 12, 2019

Philadelphia was inching closer to becoming the first city in the United States to open a safe-injection site to address the city’s opioid crisis. But the project has hit a...

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Media Trail

Larry Nichols    February 7, 2019

Trans teacher sues DC-area district, citing discrimination A transgender English teacher is suing a Maryland school district claiming that she was repeatedly harassed by students, parents and colleagues at three schools...

International News

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International News

Larry Nichols    February 7, 2019

Hong Kong court denies male status to three transgender men Hong Kong’s High Court has refused to allow three transgender men to be recognized as males on their official identity cards...

Vintage whine: Life as an LGBTQ senior

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Suz and I collect things. We’ve been together now for almost 25 years, and we’ve collected seven kids, five grandkids, three ex-husbands, two heart attacks, five different cancers and one doozy of a concussion. Now, with me in my late 60s and Suz in her mid-70s, we found ourselves to be still madly in love, but also worn out, impoverished and physically unable to carry on with what was left of our jobs. Believe it or not, we landed on our feet.

We were on the waiting list for the John C. Anderson Apartments (LGBT friendly) in downtown Philly; so, in our desperation, we knocked on the door to check our status. At this point, we were unable to pay the rent on our old apartment, so we were being aided by a cancer charity to temporarily help cover some bills. Suz was still very ill from recent chemo, surgery and recurrent infections, plus unsteady on her feet and hard of hearing from the concussion. Me, I was paranoid that, with all the stress, caregiving and work, I was surely due for another heart attack. I mean, with all that was going on, why the hell not?

By some miracle, our subsidized apartment was soon available, and on May 1, 2017, we moved in. Now we would actually be able to survive on our social security. For the first time in years, we could breathe. With the help of the social worker, we were able to navigate our way to accessing benefits. Then we discovered local perks, like free bus rides for seniors. Ed Miller, our liaison with William Way, helps us with van trips to local super markets, and hosts festive get-togethers.

As Suz started feeling better, we decided to celebrate our new home and neighbors — now friends — by paying it forward and doing what we love: writing and socializing. In that vein, we started a newsletter and a writers’ group. Our next goal is to help create a resident handbook that will contain pertinent information, plus contact and emergency numbers.

So many LGBT folks our age, even here at JCAA, feel isolated and ignored, and don’t have someone to talk to over a cup of coffee. Sometimes, they’re just too tired or sick or disabled or depressed to advocate for themselves. Most residents live alone. We’re all “of an age,” and many of us are LGBTQ, but there’s no policy that binds us together as a community. We must do that for ourselves. And we’re the lucky ones. JCAA is still one of very few places in the country that openly welcomes us, and Mark Segal, publisher of Philadelphia Gay News, fought hard to make that happen.

Suz and I were invited guests at Pennsylvania’s first LGBTQ Aging Summit in Harrisburg in October, and we realized that we’re not alone in our desire to help our community. No, a whole movement is afoot! A ballroom full of caring folks spent a lot of time and effort identifying our needs and making plans to implement solutions. As representatives of the target community, we were honored, heard and taken seriously.

Now we see that there’s a unified effort to reach out and provide services and care for our queer seniors. There’s also an effort to ensure we’re welcome and respected in ALL senior facilities, with policies put in place that will ensure our safety and well-being. Our pioneers are now being acknowledged by new pioneers who see us, listen to us and care. And, right here in Philly, the LGBT Elder Initiative is carrying the torch forward. The future of out and proud seniors is looking much brighter.


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