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Victoria Brownworth    December 18, 2019

On the afternoon of Dec. 16, two women, married to one another, were found dead by two of their three children — ages 12 and 6 — in the kitchen...

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Mark Segal    January 23, 2020

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PGN Staff    January 23, 2020

South Korea to decide fate of first transgender soldier In the first such case in South Korea, military officials will determine whether to discharge a soldier who recently underwent gender-affirmation surgery...

Out gay man running for Del. House of Representatives 

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Out gay man running for Del. House of Representatives 

Michele Zipkin    January 23, 2020

  Eric Morrison, an openly gay candidate for Delaware State Representative, was endorsed by the LGBTQ Victory Fund earlier this month. He is running to represent the 27th district, which covers...

Philly school district settles bullying case

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Philly school district settles bullying case

Tim Cwiek    January 23, 2020

  Philadelphia school-district officials have settled the lawsuit filed by Amanda  Wible, a former public school student who maintains she suffered severe bullying because she’s gender nonconforming.

Assailant of trans woman seeks new trial

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Assailant of trans woman seeks new trial

Tim Cwiek    January 23, 2020

Marcus Jones, who brutally assaulted trans woman Michelle Hill in August 2015, has filed a petition with the Pennsylvania Supreme Court, seeking a new trial.

Assailant of trans woman seeks new trial

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Assailant of trans woman seeks new trial

Tim Cwiek    January 23, 2020

Marcus Jones, who brutally assaulted trans woman Michelle Hill in August 2015, has filed a petition with the Pennsylvania Supreme Court, seeking a new trial.

Gene London, children’s TV show host and out gay advocate, has died

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Gene London, children’s TV show host and out gay advocate, has died

Jess Bryant    January 23, 2020

 Out gay man Gene London, the celebrated host of “Cartoon Corners” aka “The Gene London Show” from 1959-77 died Sunday, Jan. 19 in Reading at age 88. His family reported...

Accurately reporting Philadelphia’s homeless youth requires community effort

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Accurately reporting Philadelphia’s homeless youth requires community effort

Michele Zipkin    January 23, 2020

  Valley Youth House organized the annual Philadelphia Youth Count in conjunction with the Office of Homeless Services. On Thursday, Jan. 23, Valley Youth House volunteers worked on the street to...

Philadelphia’s Resident Survey shows LGBTQ dissatisfaction with police, healthcare 

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Philadelphia’s Resident Survey shows LGBTQ dissatisfaction with police, healthcare 

Michele Zipkin    January 23, 2020

    The 2019-20 Philadelphia Resident Survey details responses to city services such as public safety, healthcare, community programs and education, among other services that impact quality of life. It also breaks...

Vintage whine: Life as an LGBTQ senior

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Suz and I collect things. We’ve been together now for almost 25 years, and we’ve collected seven kids, five grandkids, three ex-husbands, two heart attacks, five different cancers and one doozy of a concussion. Now, with me in my late 60s and Suz in her mid-70s, we found ourselves to be still madly in love, but also worn out, impoverished and physically unable to carry on with what was left of our jobs. Believe it or not, we landed on our feet.

We were on the waiting list for the John C. Anderson Apartments (LGBT friendly) in downtown Philly; so, in our desperation, we knocked on the door to check our status. At this point, we were unable to pay the rent on our old apartment, so we were being aided by a cancer charity to temporarily help cover some bills. Suz was still very ill from recent chemo, surgery and recurrent infections, plus unsteady on her feet and hard of hearing from the concussion. Me, I was paranoid that, with all the stress, caregiving and work, I was surely due for another heart attack. I mean, with all that was going on, why the hell not?

By some miracle, our subsidized apartment was soon available, and on May 1, 2017, we moved in. Now we would actually be able to survive on our social security. For the first time in years, we could breathe. With the help of the social worker, we were able to navigate our way to accessing benefits. Then we discovered local perks, like free bus rides for seniors. Ed Miller, our liaison with William Way, helps us with van trips to local super markets, and hosts festive get-togethers.

As Suz started feeling better, we decided to celebrate our new home and neighbors — now friends — by paying it forward and doing what we love: writing and socializing. In that vein, we started a newsletter and a writers’ group. Our next goal is to help create a resident handbook that will contain pertinent information, plus contact and emergency numbers.

So many LGBT folks our age, even here at JCAA, feel isolated and ignored, and don’t have someone to talk to over a cup of coffee. Sometimes, they’re just too tired or sick or disabled or depressed to advocate for themselves. Most residents live alone. We’re all “of an age,” and many of us are LGBTQ, but there’s no policy that binds us together as a community. We must do that for ourselves. And we’re the lucky ones. JCAA is still one of very few places in the country that openly welcomes us, and Mark Segal, publisher of Philadelphia Gay News, fought hard to make that happen.

Suz and I were invited guests at Pennsylvania’s first LGBTQ Aging Summit in Harrisburg in October, and we realized that we’re not alone in our desire to help our community. No, a whole movement is afoot! A ballroom full of caring folks spent a lot of time and effort identifying our needs and making plans to implement solutions. As representatives of the target community, we were honored, heard and taken seriously.

Now we see that there’s a unified effort to reach out and provide services and care for our queer seniors. There’s also an effort to ensure we’re welcome and respected in ALL senior facilities, with policies put in place that will ensure our safety and well-being. Our pioneers are now being acknowledged by new pioneers who see us, listen to us and care. And, right here in Philly, the LGBT Elder Initiative is carrying the torch forward. The future of out and proud seniors is looking much brighter.


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