Sometimes I am reminded that I'm not a spring chicken. Indeed, I've been public as a trans woman for 22 years now, and that is still less than half my life.
A large national Catholic coalition will not be allowed to congregate in the parish they had long been promised during the World Meeting of Families happening in Philadelphia next week. It was not a logistical screw-up. The group of LGBT families was forced from that and all other Catholic parishes in the area because of whom they love.
I remember it like it was yesterday: the night in May 1998, when Dana International, an Israeli transgender singer, went on stage in Europe waving my country’s flag and winning the Eurovision Song Contest representing Israel. She brought Pride to Israel (in both meanings of the term) as well as the Eurovision contest to our capital, Jerusalem, the following year. At that time, I was a closeted gay teen who already knew he wanted to serve his country as a diplomat but I was afraid that, because of my sexual orientation, I wouldn’t be able to fulfill my dreams. There have been so many teens like me throughout history: fearful, silent, in search of role models.
As we know well in the LGBT community, our state legislature doesn’t do anything quickly. We’ve been fighting for years to pass statewide nondiscrimination protection for LGBT workers. Now, instead of rushing to protect workers, legislators are in a race to take rights away. Some are trying to fast track a law that would take away sick days from 200,000 workers and strip the rights of local communities to create their own ordinances.
This will come as no surprise to you, unless you happen to currently reside under a sizable chunk of stone: On ABC’s “20/20,” reporter Diane Sawyer sat down with former Olympian and current reality-TV show family patriarch Bruce Jenner for an exclusive interview. Following months — even years — of speculation, Jenner finally disclosed that he is in the midst of a gender transition.
Jenner’s story is one that in many ways I’d rather not write about. In some ways, writing about it feels like I’m playing into the same sort of “media hype” I want to criticize. It feels hypocritical. At the same time, I feel that I cannot avoid writing about it.
There’s more to it, though. I can’t watch a transgender documentary or interview without it being, well, work. There’s remarkably little that will come up in such a context that is going to be that earth-shatteringly interesting to me.
Part of this is because of my own life experience, and I’ll admit that I saw a lot of my own life in Jenner’s history. No, I never competed in the Olympics, let alone received the gold in the decathlon; the specifics are quite different. Nevertheless, I too know what it is like to try to fight one’s transgender yearnings by force-feeding masculinity to yourself. I know the feelings of isolation dealing with this in an era before Internet connectivity, when information was few and far between. I also remember all too well the pain and hardship that goes hand in hand with the coming-out process.
To Jenner’s credit, this was a better interview than many. He — and I should note that Jenner has asked via his publicist to use traditionally masculine pronouns and his birth name for the time being — carried himself well, and managed to control the interview with a fair amount of grace and humor.
Sure, there were a few missteps. For example, a rather embarrassing foray to Jenner’s closer to procure a little black dress, and a reply to the question, “What do you look forward to,” when he focused on nail polish. I also have seen more than a few transfolks early in their own transitions who have said and done similar, only to grit their teeth later on. I’m sure I’ve done the same too.
I was especially glad to see him acknowledge some of the larger issues transgender people face, particularly around suicide and murder — while at the same time making it clear that he does not see himself as a transgender spokesperson.
Yet, while Jenner did pretty well, Sawyer and the “20/20” production crew fell into so many of the usual traps that accompany the typical transgender interview. She fell into so many of the old, tired stereotypes.
The production cuts away to family members to gauge their approval and disapproval, and to talk about Jenner’s father and what he might have said. They pulled out Deuteronomy 23:5 from the Bible and clips from Fox News. We are treated to B-roll images of women putting on makeup in mirrors.
Meanwhile, a lot of Sawyer’s questions and discussion fell along traditional lines. It’s all about stereotypes: how masculine Jenner was, especially in the Olympics era, was a large part of her narrative. Meanwhile, she often tried to boil it down to makeup, or clothing, or surgery.
At one point, Sawyer tells Jenner, incredulously, “I hate makeup. I hate getting dressed up. You’re looking forward to this?” I certainly hope she does not think that womanhood simply equates to makeup, clothing and other such superficial things.
Yes, I also wear makeup, but not because I think foundation and eye shadow make me a woman. I see it as more of a means to an end, something that helps others see who I am.
Yet this is what the media reduces us to, every single time a story like this airs.
Now, do I think this was an important moment, this two-hour interview? Yes and no.
That this episode was the highest-rated in years for “20/20,” and that every news outlet has yet to stop talking about it, says something. Rather than halting all the rabid speculation of the last few months, this seems to have further ignited the interest.
What’s more, I think this may well change some lives. Some may understand transgender people better in the wake of this. Some will learn a thing or two. It may help some young transgender people to understand themselves better. So, yes, this may well help.
Yet, this is a bit more of what I was alluding to above when I discussed this not being particularly earth-shattering. Jenner is nowhere near the first high-profile gender transition. This is part of a very long line of transgender people in the media spotlight. Christine Jorgensen in the 1950s, Jan Morris, Wendy Carlos, Renee Richards in the 1970s, Caroline “Tula” Cossey in the 1980s and many others predate Jenner by decades, while so many others have been in the spotlight in recent years.
All of these people have gone through the same questions, and more, from the media. So here we go again.
This leaves me wondering: Why do we still have to go through these interviews? What is it we’re not saying and what isn’t getting through to people when we share our stories?
Perhaps that will be when I’ll truly be surprised: when a high-profile celebrity transitions and it doesn’t require an interview.
Gwen Smith hopes Jenner stays strong and enjoys the ride. You’ll find her on Twitter at @gwenners.
One of the most important changes in how the world sees diversity is the recognition that our variety of thoughts, desires and perspectives demand more than “acceptance.” They are fundamental assets that must be embraced.
At the Philadelphia Convention and Visitors Bureau (PHLCVB), our definition of diversity would not be complete without this essence of “inclusion.” Recognizing this early on, the PHLCVB became the first convention and visitors bureau to establish a Multicultural Affairs Congress (MAC), founded by A. Bruce Crawley and State Rep. Dwight Evans, and known today as PHLDiversity.